WalkWithFxafa

As of now, all that is on my mind is the realization that it is one thing to love a person and a completely different thing to love the person right!  As in, it is one thing for me to love you to the best of my ability in my understanding and it is a different thing for you to see, accept, interprete and appreciate it as love. And this is a big problem in relationships whether by blood or affinity!  -A parent can love their child in a way that the child does not understand, appreciate or accept as love.  -A husband/wife can love their spouse in a way that does not satisfy them irrespective of the effort put in by the loving partner or the quality therein.  -A friend might not also love in a way that makes sense to the other!  But for now, I'm more concerned with the one that affects couples!  This brings me to the question; have you ever asked your partner how he/she wants to be loved? Have you ever asked him/her if your love satisfies them?  Our partners can love us but we also ca

 Just a quick one for today.  I want to tell you a few things; -Nothing can happen until you your self decide to and in fact happen!  -Nothing can change until you change!  -You cannot be blessed until you bless!  -You can not be heard until you speak!  The power to be who ever you want to be, what ever you want to see; the beginning and attainment of all successes you desire, the quality of life you want and all that you aspire to in life lies within you.  If you want to repent from your sins and come through in your shortcomings, you have to make the move, confess! (Leviticus 5:5)  The power to live or die lies in your hands. You just need to make the choice (Deuteronomy 30:15).  It is not enough to desire. You need to act! Let the desire for change rise within you like a raging storm, be angry with your status quo, let this anger and extreme desire move in you and cause you to act, cause you to do the unimaginable!  Even faith is linked with works! (James 2:17)  No body can do it fo

I don't know how to explain how I feel; whether it is anger or just confusion at how people formulate philosophies to suit their blatant lasciviousness and are even confident in their shamelessness!  Ehn ehn! Don't even respond to me if you know you are not a Christian. I'm talking to people with whom I share the same Vine even more because you won't even follow; you'll rather be the "off-key" in an otherwise melodious music!  How can a Christian woman say something like "i'm I his cook? Did he marry me to be cooking for him or be his house keeper... bla bla" and form a philosophy to support such laziness and disobedience to God's word and call it being "feminist"! Look, the truth is, God made us home keepers! He says " A wise woman builds her house but the foolish woman destroys hers "! That is to say that everything that pertains to building and advancing your home ranging from house keeping, to teaching and applicat

 Before I got married, people who know me well can attest to how confident I am. My confidence was an all rounder😅! As in, I felt confident both physically and spiritually 😂,, like i sabi! Few months in to my marriage, I had multiplied!😬 I started making frequent trips to my tailor because no clothe seemed to fit. I was either expanding or making new! And with my new body, I lost my sense of style. I forgot what I loved and even when I figured that out, it cannot suit my new body. I couldn't have time for my hair, my nails heck, I didn't have time for anything whilst trying to adjust into my new role.  I remember breaking down in to tears because I felt frustrated. At some point, I avoided all social gatherings. I even avoided my family. As a result, I lost connection with the world. I had no information. I was even too depressed to go online for fear of facing my reality and my obvious inability to move with the trend; that times and people have changed so much and I'm

 On a very angry note, I want to state this; if you are a man and do not want to be vulnerable before and accountable to a woman, don't contemplate the idea of getting married! And if you are a woman and you believe it is impossible for you to serve a man or any other person within a home, please be far from marital arrangements because this is all marriage is about; finding a safe place to be vulnerable and not ashamed and an opportunity to serve! So leave people's children alone instead of bringing them to a setting where they'll be stressed unnecessarily. Scripture said the man needed help and company and that is why the woman was made (Genesis 2:20) So why will this same man say things like "I don't want to be vulnerable before my wife" or that "I don't want to cry before my wife else she'll see me as a weak man" or "I don't want my wife to know that I'm broke" etcetera. Well hello?! She already know you are insufficient

 So in many forms of relationships be it family relationships, friendships, romantic relationships, marital relationships and what have you, that exists between people, at one point or the other, you get to hear one party say certain things that hurt the other party and at the point of apology, the offending party says something like "I didn't mean it, I was just upset or provoked", or "I didn't mean it, I was drunk" or "I just wanted to upset you" or "I wasn't thinking" and similar excuses just like these and the other party takes it and dismisses the offense. Or in other situations, people tell you things that you ordinarily should take seriously but you put it off, giving excuses for them with lines like "I know Abc and I know he/she did not mean what he/she said"  Well, I'm here to tell you what I just realized; BELIEVE IT! Because it is the truth! This may be hard to take in but I realized, it's just an opportun

First of all, writing here is therapeutic💯 y'all!😅 Let me give you guys the juiciest 'amebo' from my house, premium gossip!😅 It involves my husband so please 🤐!😅 Well, I think in the city of malice Keepers, I mean, one where only people who have acquired stars in malice keeping, as in,  the rich of the rich in keeping malice live; my husband is the king!😅 Man can keep malice like his life depends on it😂 He offends you, he keeps malice, you offend him, he keeps malice, in the absence of any offense, he'll still keep malice in advance!😂 I on the other hand can't stand it! Because I'm not much of an extrovert, I love to stay indoors and at such, I always want to make my home as fun as possible especially with the few people I have around and top on that list is my husband. I must confess also that I'm a very clingy lover!😅🙈 It's so bad that I wouldn't even want you to go anywhere and where it's necessary, I want you to take me along and wh

 So you've been offended; maybe cheated on, lied to, lied against, betrayed, stolen from etc and the person in the wrong has decided to apologise whether or not the apology is sincere and actually came to tender it. Let's honestly tell the truth:  Is that enough to heal you of the hurt they caused?  Do you automatically continue the relationship like nothing happened? For me, the truth is; an apology in it self has never been enough and most times, it does not bring back the affected relationship. This is how it works for me. An apology is actually a starting point. Once you apologize (sincerely!😁, Because I have an inner testing device for sincerity😅), I take it that you feel bad about offending me and makes me feel a bit better. But that does not mean I'm completely whole about the pain I feel. Other things that makes me heal even better are that you allow me express my pain and how your actions affected me and that includes rants o!😅 Plus answering all my questions. F