WalkWithFxafa

 Before I got married, people who know me well can attest to how confident I am. My confidence was an all rounder😅! As in, I felt confident both physically and spiritually 😂,, like i sabi! Few months in to my marriage, I had multiplied!😬 I started making frequent trips to my tailor because no clothe seemed to fit. I was either expanding or making new! And with my new body, I lost my sense of style. I forgot what I loved and even when I figured that out, it cannot suit my new body. I couldn't have time for my hair, my nails heck, I didn't have time for anything whilst trying to adjust into my new role.  I remember breaking down in to tears because I felt frustrated. At some point, I avoided all social gatherings. I even avoided my family. As a result, I lost connection with the world. I had no information. I was even too depressed to go online for fear of facing my reality and my obvious inability to move with the trend; that times and people have changed so much and I'm

 On a very angry note, I want to state this; if you are a man and do not want to be vulnerable before and accountable to a woman, don't contemplate the idea of getting married! And if you are a woman and you believe it is impossible for you to serve a man or any other person within a home, please be far from marital arrangements because this is all marriage is about; finding a safe place to be vulnerable and not ashamed and an opportunity to serve! So leave people's children alone instead of bringing them to a setting where they'll be stressed unnecessarily. Scripture said the man needed help and company and that is why the woman was made (Genesis 2:20) So why will this same man say things like "I don't want to be vulnerable before my wife" or that "I don't want to cry before my wife else she'll see me as a weak man" or "I don't want my wife to know that I'm broke" etcetera. Well hello?! She already know you are insufficient

 So in many forms of relationships be it family relationships, friendships, romantic relationships, marital relationships and what have you, that exists between people, at one point or the other, you get to hear one party say certain things that hurt the other party and at the point of apology, the offending party says something like "I didn't mean it, I was just upset or provoked", or "I didn't mean it, I was drunk" or "I just wanted to upset you" or "I wasn't thinking" and similar excuses just like these and the other party takes it and dismisses the offense. Or in other situations, people tell you things that you ordinarily should take seriously but you put it off, giving excuses for them with lines like "I know Abc and I know he/she did not mean what he/she said"  Well, I'm here to tell you what I just realized; BELIEVE IT! Because it is the truth! This may be hard to take in but I realized, it's just an opportun

First of all, writing here is therapeutic💯 y'all!😅 Let me give you guys the juiciest 'amebo' from my house, premium gossip!😅 It involves my husband so please 🤐!😅 Well, I think in the city of malice Keepers, I mean, one where only people who have acquired stars in malice keeping, as in,  the rich of the rich in keeping malice live; my husband is the king!😅 Man can keep malice like his life depends on it😂 He offends you, he keeps malice, you offend him, he keeps malice, in the absence of any offense, he'll still keep malice in advance!😂 I on the other hand can't stand it! Because I'm not much of an extrovert, I love to stay indoors and at such, I always want to make my home as fun as possible especially with the few people I have around and top on that list is my husband. I must confess also that I'm a very clingy lover!😅🙈 It's so bad that I wouldn't even want you to go anywhere and where it's necessary, I want you to take me along and wh

 So you've been offended; maybe cheated on, lied to, lied against, betrayed, stolen from etc and the person in the wrong has decided to apologise whether or not the apology is sincere and actually came to tender it. Let's honestly tell the truth:  Is that enough to heal you of the hurt they caused?  Do you automatically continue the relationship like nothing happened? For me, the truth is; an apology in it self has never been enough and most times, it does not bring back the affected relationship. This is how it works for me. An apology is actually a starting point. Once you apologize (sincerely!😁, Because I have an inner testing device for sincerity😅), I take it that you feel bad about offending me and makes me feel a bit better. But that does not mean I'm completely whole about the pain I feel. Other things that makes me heal even better are that you allow me express my pain and how your actions affected me and that includes rants o!😅 Plus answering all my questions. F

... 🥂 to those of you who have perfect marriages!( 🙄yeah yeah. I know they exist and that shear knowledge makes me really envious). To those of us in the battle field😅, all I can say is; "more grease to our elbows mehn!" A quick story.  My  husband came home a little earlier than usual. I was excited because I love his company. His coming got me pumped with excitement. I was on my feet, trying to set his dinner and make the home as comfortable for him as possible. One thing led to another and we were arguing. Then he storms out of the house while talking to "a friend" on the phone and explaining to him how "this woman" has started nagging him out "again" and he's on his way for them to hang out and I could hear the other person giving him what seemed to be words of comfort while urging him to hasten up. I on the other, became so frustrated. What I had hoped was going to be a marvelous evening has turned out to be a bitter one and all I cou