Emotional compatibility is a BIG thing! Look in to it.

I simply define emotional compatibility as the ability to understand to give back the love you receive, same measure and/or more. I love to define it better using the words of The Good Book; "dwelling in understanding"(1 Peter 3). Applicably meaning to continually and consistently learn to understand the needs of one another with the intention of meeting it. And some one might say scripture was talking about the woman only but no! It started by explaining the need of the man. You can't over emphasize the need for understanding. See Proverbs for evidence and clarity. 

If you are contemplating relationship with anyone whether intimate or platonic; friendship or romantic relationship, please it is important to check if you are emotionally compatible with each other to avoid the accompanying stress. 

Ask and answer questions like:

- I'm I important to you as you are to me?

- How do you value me in your life and what's the value of this relationship to you? -

-Can you love me in the way and manner that I love you? (Mention it) 

- what does love mean to you and how can I show you my love? 

- Are you willing and committed to love me in the way I desire to be loved even if it doesn't make sense to you? 

The failure to sort this out will culminate in to Emotional Abuse. 

It is important to know that emotional abuse can be done either deliberately or even without intent. It comes from failure to give what you receive. Emotional abuse is real and I call it the illness of the mind. I believe it is more dangerous than physical abuse because it attacks your will for life so much so that before you attempt to live, you are already dead! Unfortunately, the society we live in don't see it as the serious threat that it is. 

First, check if you are deliberate about the relationship and then see if the other party share the same deliberateness with you. If you both are deliberate about the relationship, in other words, that you both want the relationship equally as much, that alone will give you the needed basis for sustaining and enjoying the relationship. Also, you will be able to understand your place and value in the relationship so as to know the effort to invest in the relationship. I honestly advise that you invest in relationships profitably. 

Then secondly, check if you can give back the love you receive from the other party and if that other party can give back to you the love you receive. 

I'm telling you, there is no greater frustration than that you plant your seeds on "non reproductive soil" I mean, investing your love in a place you can't get back. 

❤, 

Fxafa.